Ways to a positive dating relationships
There’s something lovely about being told that you were on someone’s mind all week but there’s no need for you to contact each other with every passing thought.
We’ve all had trials and tribulations in life and there will be a time when, as a part of your deepening new relationship, you will share these with each other, but offloading all your emotional baggage on to a date is likely to crush any hope of a future together.
If a date chooses somewhere good for a date tell them you appreciate their choice; if they have nice manners say that – tell people when you enjoy their company; if the colour of their outfit highlights the colour of their eyes; if something they did or said made you feel happy.
These are just examples, but what is important is that you get into the habit of saying out loud the nice appreciative things that you may often think but not tell people – you’ll make their day.
Be sensitive to the other person’s feelings and don’t try and rush them along in the relationship before they’re ready.
There are many milestones – moving from online chat to the phone; adding them as a friend on a social network; letting them know where you live; introducing them to your family – if you try and do it all too soon you may scare them off.
Think about it: which one is your best developed “ear”?A vital element of positive social interaction, however, is good communication. A communication model usually involves a sender, a receiver, and a (verbal or nonverbal) message which is encoded by the sender and decoded by the receiver.It also includes feedback, the response of the receiver to the message, as well as noise, which is anything that can disrupt communication.So if the husband has a well-trained relationship ear, he may decode the sentence to be something like “you are unreliable since you have forgotten to refill the sugar jar,” and he might retort with something like, “Well you are not very reliable, you still haven’t fixed the light in the kitchen! Things unravel quickly when we are not hearing each other.The underlying emphasis of both the sender and the receiver on the four facets can create a barrier to healthy communication.