Online dating for abstinence

We use Yelp to check every restaurant, pick movies via Rotten Tomatoes, use wine apps to purchase the perfect bottle.

In a Friday column, David Brooks reviews the data presented by the book People who date online are not shallower or vainer than those who don’t. They have access to very little information that can help them judge if they will fall in love with this person.Even those of us who would never use online dating sites will still often Facebook-stalk someone before a date.We take the Meyers-Briggs personality test and various strengths-finder quizzes in order to determine whether we’ve picked the right job.We do not see them as human beings: we see them as objects.How do we re-capture an attitude of enchantment, a qualitative rather than quantitative pursuit of love?

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