Dating too soon
" at AARP.org, suggests that those who are still grieving the loss of a spouse are not yet prepared to date.A partner still distraught by grief may latch on to a new relationship prematurely out of desperation for love and physical contact.But dealing with a slew of emotions isn’t the only thing that can be confusing post-breakup: Trying to navigate the world of dating after a breakup can be tricky, especially if you’re worried about it being “too soon.” So, there such a thing as too soon to start dating again after going through a breakup?“It heavily depends on how long you were in the relationship and how fully invested you were in your partner,” Gina Yannotta, matchmaker and COO of The Vida Consultancy, tells Bustle.Dating again requires emotional stability and a willingness to be open to a new relationship -- critical components that often only develop with time.Keogh describes his experience on a first date after the death of his wife, saying that "The first time I went to dinner with another woman, I felt like I was cheating on my late wife.
Make your emotional stability priority -- over and above any new dating opportunities.
As widower Abel Keogh notes in the article, "Ten Dating Tips for Widows and Widowers," new love interests in your life "shouldn't have to compete against a ghost." The dangers of dating too soon after the loss of a spouse include not having grieved properly, making comparisons, and coping with judgment from family and friends.
If the loss of a spouse is due to divorce rather than death, there can be the added dimension of bitterness and emotional turmoil caused by the breakup of the relationship.
There are few things in life worse than getting your heart broken.
Not only is it a supremely sad experience, there are all kinds of other emotions — anger, regret, bitterness, even happiness in some cases — that can be super confusing to sort through.